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Releasing Fear and Living in the Now; a Life Lesson Presented in High Definition

Like my dear husband loves to say… it’s not the years, it’s the mileage.

Fear and Doubt.  There are no uglier words in the human language.  Like Garth Brooks once said “Learning to live again is killing me.”  It’s kinda like that.  Releasing fear and doubt, that’s the key to truly living a life of joy and abundance.

Last year, I began to experience some issues with my hip.  While grocery shopping one day, I was standing (yes, standing… as in still, not moving, not leaning, not reaching, etc) and perusing the shelf in front of me to contemplating which item would be preferable for a better dinner experience that evening (fancy way of saying did we want bowtie, spaghetti or rotini).  That is exactly when I felt this sickening sliding sensation in the hip area, a bright burst of pain, and my leg caved under me.  Thankfully, I had one hand on the cart still and was able to catch myself!  For days, I could barely walk because of the pain and sleeping was sporadic at best so I made a doctor’s appointment.

Let the fun begin… ugh.  They poked, twisted, prodded, poked some more, and then finally sent me for an x-ray.  The x-ray showed no breaks (well, duh… I think I would have noticed if I’d fallen and broken my hip, come on now!) but nothing else.  So, they chalked it up to old Arthur Itis, sent me home with a prescription for pain pills that I would never take, and called it good.  Pain pills don’t fix anything, so that just wasn’t happening but I figured I’d wait awhile and see if it got better while taking the anti-inflammatory they had given me.  It didn’t.  The only thing I noticed a difference in was the frequency of that sharp, excruciating pain that shot down my leg and caused me to look like part of a 3 Stooges movie.

Doctor appointment #2… poking, prodding, twisting, review of the x-ray.  No further tests ordered.  No help given except asking if I wanted more pain pills.  I get it, I’m no spring chicken anymore, but I know that this isn’t just arthritis.  I felt defeated, like a number on a chart that was just being filed away.  So for months I just dealt with it, and I learned how to make the best of the days  it was bearable.

Enter 2017

I was ecstatic to be able to return to the trusted doctor that I had seen for many years (thank you to dear hubby’s employer Toyota Motor Manufacturing for offering the great insurance!)  I recounted the story to him, and he said “So, they only did an x-ray?  That’s it?”  I confirmed that had been the extent of any testing done.  He shook his head and said “That’s not going to show them anything unless you broke it!  I’m sure this is soft tissue damage, which means you need an MRI.  It sounds like your hip has been subluxating (for us non-doctor folk, that’s popping in and out of the socket, LOL). If that’s the case, then this could have been causing more and more damage over the past year with each incident.”  There was an unpleasant conversation that followed, with worst case scenarios.

So, now we have an MRI scheduled for next week.  I was a mess after the doctor visit.  All those “what if’s” running through my brain, I couldn’t even function the rest of the day.  I was trying my best to focus, but it just wasn’t happening.  Anything I read I had to re-read multiple times just to comprehend; I went into another room to do/get something and couldn’t remember what; dinner was late because I couldn’t even wrap my head around the steps of making something that I’d been making for 20 plus years.  I just felt restless in my own skin, agitated, like I needed to be doing something, constantly.

Releasing Fear

The problem?  Fear.  I was not in a place of lReleasing Fear - I Release fear and doubt and I only entertain thoughts that serve my highest good - Starr Williams - starbornstrangers.comove anymore, fear was taking hold of me.  Silently, I allowed it to take my hand and wildly encourage me to run naked and afraid through the streets of my psyche, destroying my inner peace.  I knew better, but at that time my mind wasn’t even grasping that… simply because I wasn’t living in the NOW.  All those worries… wasted energy.  It doesn’t help a single thing; all it does is take away the joy of your present moment.   Even worse, you are putting that negativity out into the Universe, who in kind is thinking that is exactly what you are trying to manifest!  See the problem here?

Thankfully, I have a wonderful family (including soul-family) who were there to help pull me back from the ledge on which my psyche had crawled out upon.  It took a few days of talking, meditating, and praying to finally calm myself enough that I could think clearly again.  Once there, I was able to put my typical practices into play… releasing fear and doubt.

God said he would take our burdens upon himself if we just ask, so I did.  I told Him that I believed in His divine plan and in His divine timing, and I had faith all was as it should be.  Then, I released it all.  With a mighty sweep of Angels’ wings accompanied by the chorus of their heavenly voices, all was well.  Yeah, so I have a flair for the dramatic, I know.  But seriously, I felt so much lighter and so much more focused.  Where fear had been, love now resided once again.

The TL;DR

Trust in the journey.  Have faith that all is as it should be.  Believe in the big picture, divine plan and divine timing.  All will work out for the Highest good!

Love and Light y’all!

~ Starr

 

The World is Your Valentine!

Happy Valentine’s Day y’all!

Yes, I realize this is one of the most commercial days of the year.  Yes, I realize not everyone is a relationship.  But, here’s the way I see it…

I love you this much

There is so much hatred and divisiveness in this world every day that a day to celebrate love is welcomed!  No one says you need to spend money to celebrate.  There are plenty of ways to show love without spending a dime.

  • Write a poem for your loved one: This is something that will move them beyond words, no matter how well you write.
  • Do a chore for them (wash dishes, clean the bathroom, mop the floor, etc.)
  • Give them some special time… run a nice bath for them, give them a massage, rub their feet, etc.
  • Make dinner or a dessert for them, even Rice Krispies treats would work… it’s the thought that counts!
  • Watch their favorite movie with them

I think you get the point… The gift of your time is precious!

Okay… so, maybe you aren’t in a relationship?  Well then, let the world be your Valentine!

  • Practice a random act of kindness
  • Pick up litter from your neighbor’s yard
  • Volunteer at a local homeless or pet shelter
  • Leave a kind note for a co-worker
  • Compliment the checkout clerk
  • Carry the groceries for a single, overworked mother
  • Read to the elderly at a nursing home

Trust me, there are SO many ways to spread love that don’t require money.  Just something small, even a smile, can make all the difference in someone’s day.  When you give someone the gift of yourself, that’s the greatest gift of all. When someone makes time for you, doesn’t that make you feel wonderful? When you know they are making an effort to be with you, to do something special for you… doesn’t that make your heart swell?  Wouldn’t it be wonderful to pass that same feeling on to someone else?  Pay it forward!

Help us renew love throughout the world today, please.  Every thought that comes from Love raises the vibration the Universe.  We need that now more than ever.

Love, Light and Hugs my Valentines!

~ Starr

 

Back in the Saddle Again

2017  – Giddyup Little Doggie!

So… it’s been quite awhile since I’ve posted, I know.  The truth is, I started feeling like it just didn’t matter.  I didn’t see that it was really helping anyone.  That was ego talking, of course.  Like they say… hindsight is 20/20.  The lesson here?  Even someone as versed in Lightwork as myself still has demons to battle.  It’s never easy, but it is worth it!

I do have good news to share… I am now a newlywed!  In 2008, I met a wonderful man who helped me through one of the toughest situations I had ever faced.  We were friends only, then after a little while we realized that we meant much more to each other.  After 8 months we moved in together, and we were very happy and content with our relationship.  We didn’t feel the need for a piece of paper to prove we loved each other.

Enter Dave, stage left: Mother’s Day 2016, he popped the question and I was completely taken aback… and I mean comically so.  I just stared at him, waiting for a punchline!  So he reiterated why he wanted to marry me, took my hand in his, and asked again.  He actually wrote me a poem too, be still my heart.  Of course, I happily and tearfully accepted.  😀

A few weeks later I found out that 2016 was the year we were wrapping up unfinished business from 2008; Lo and behold, that’s the year Dave and I met.  The Universe brought us the perfect way to tie it all up in a beautiful bow!  You can read more about the Universal 9 Year: The Year of Completion here.  It’s pretty interesting stuff!

But, that’s not the end of the tale… here’s where it gets really comical.  My youngest daughter, Nicki, proposed to her partner, Trina, that same day. I’m happy to say, she accepted!

But, wait… there’s still more.  My oldest daughter was proposed to the VERY same day!  So… wow!  All three of us Williams women became engaged on the same day!  Tell me the Universe wasn’t pouring blessings down on our family!  My soon-to-be husband even had a plan put into motion for the wedding and honeymoon too.  He wanted to get married during his work’s week-long summer shut down period… which was only 7 weeks away, LOL.  Panic?  Just a little… yeah.

To make it an even more special day, Nicki and Trina chose the same day for their wedding!  So, in two separate ceremonies at the same location on July 16th we all tied the knot.  I presided over her wedding, and she over mine (yes we are both ordained).  Now, how cool is that!  We had a lovely joint reception since we share 90% of the same friends, LOL.  It was a simply amazing day!

Then, later in the year, I received another blessing.  My sister BJ, who I have been estranged from for quite awhile, came back into my life.  We had our differences, and there were apparently some parties who had been fanning flames that were never really flames to begin with.  Once we had the chance to talk we realized what had happened, and that, most of all, we still loved each other very much.  I am elated to have my sister back, I just can’t tell you how grateful I am for that blessing.  I missed her more than I even realized.

And for the last piece of wonderful news… BJ got engaged to her beautiful longtime partner Ashley in November, and they were married in December!  That means every single Williams woman of appropriate age (yeah, I live in Kentucky, no jokes!  LOL) was married in 2016!  It was such an amazing year for all of us… filled with love, hope, renewed friendship, and family!

So, here I am in 2017 filled with the joy that carried over from last year.  The love that fills my heart, I want to remember it every, single day.  I also want to share it with you!  So, back in the saddle I jumped… back to spreading Love and Light, Hope, and the legacy of Kindness.

Thank you for being here with me, for sharing in my joy and my journey.  I wish you a brightly blessed 2017 filled with all the joy your heart can hold!

Namaste y’all

 

Dealing with Mercury Retrograde – April 28, 2016

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Today begins Mercury Retrograde, which many always see as a chaotic time of year rife with malfunctions and misunderstandings.  I used to be one of those people, until I realized the purpose of this most hated time of year.

Mercury Retrograde is a time for personal growth.  During this time, we are pressed to release anything or any old patterns that do not serve our highest good.  It urges you out of your comfort zone, and sets you on a path to re-examine your life and re-evaluate your priorities and goals.  Do you have some routines that need a little tweaking for better time or energy management?  How about some habits that may not be in your best interests?  Or even something as small as redirecting your attention to new opportunities, away from anything stagnant or wasteful.  This is also a good time to finish up things that have been left incomplete or unresolved, both physically and spiritually.

The best thing you can do is be honest with yourself!  Don’t fight the changes, they are for your highest good.  Once you adopt this philosophy, Mercury Retrograde becomes much easier to manage and you could even find yourself looking forward to it (I know, hard to believe).  But I can attest to you, once I made this change in how I viewed this time of year I became much more centered and focused.  My life seemed to flow more easily.  It took some deep soul searching; a good many things came to light which I had been either ignoring or just flat out refused to let go.  I knew they weren’t for my highest good, but I clung to them for specific reasons.  Once I did my cosmic housecleaning, it opened the door to so many new opportunities!  Many of us are always saying “If I had more time…”  Well, guess what?  Now, right now, is the time to FIND that time.  I released from my life the biggest waste of my time, and I found that I really don’t miss it as much as I thought I would.  I give myself permission to revisit it on occasion, just for fun, but I do not dedicate the time and energy that I once had been wasting on it.  Talk about freedom!

Sometimes it just takes a fresh perspective.  You know you, better than anyone else, and you alone know where your time and energy can better be spent.  This is a time for introspection, reflection and redefining.

Don’t forget, be kind to yourself during this period!  Things will still get wonky; there will still be miscommunication and misunderstandings.  Don’t take things personally, just take a deep breath and let it go.  If there is a lesson to be learned, acknowledge it and move forward.  Be accepting of new ideas and fresh thinking!  The Universe is throwing you a big assist, and sometimes these new thoughts are pointers to a new direction for your life path.  Take notes, and when Mercury Retrograde is over you can dive straight in and act on them.

As with any Mercury Retrograde, here is a list of things to be watchful of:

  • Have patience with those you love.  Tempers can flair when things don’t go as expected, or when someone is trying to rid themselves of old habits.
  • Things will move at a much slower pace right now, so remember to be kind in the face of frustration.
  • Now is not the time to enter into new contracts, employment or make major purchases if it can be avoided.
  • Electronics have been know to malfunction during this period, so it’s a good idea to backup your data.
  • Things will get misplaced; try to make a conscious effort to remember where you are placing something important.
  • Sleep disturbances can cause problems during this period, so make every effort to get enough rest so that your health and mental well-being will not suffer.
  • Traveling is usually chaotic during Mercury Retrograde, so if you must travel make sure you have given yourself ample time for delays.  Also, make a list of any items you want to take along so you don’t forget anything at the last minute.  Be mindful of distractions while driving.
  • Communications often cause issues during this time; proof read your emails, think before speaking, and confirm all dates, appointments and/or meetings.
  • Watch your words carefully.  This is not the time to spread rumors or speak ill of others (not that there is ever a good time for these things).  Think before posting a rant to social media.
  • Now is a good time to get together with old friends and reminisce.

If you would like more specific information on this Mercury Retrograde in Taurus, there is some good information here.

Brightest blessings to you, and may this Mercury Retrograde bring you clarification and direction.

Love and Light!

~ Starr

Signs in the Most Unexpected Places

Today I wanted to share with you how hard the Universe works for your greatest good; also, the importance of seeing the signs.

Not quite two weeks ago, we found out that my son-in-law had cancer and it’s been a rollercoaster ride since.  There have been so many tears, so many prayers and pleas for help.  My mind was so frazzled that I wasn’t paying attention to signs right in front of me, so the Universe decided it was going to reach out to me in a very unexpected way.

One evening, I just needed something mindless to do to relax and unwind so I was playing Yahtzee with Buddies on my tablet.  I was crying and speaking out loud to the Universe, proclaiming that I felt lost along my path with so many things going wrong… it almost felt like I wasn’t doing what I needed to be doing.  I said, “I need a sign, please show me I’m still on the right path”.

Here’s where things got interesting.  My next turn on the app, I rolled a Yahtzee with just one roll.  That actually got a wee smile to my face, but I honestly didn’t believe that to be a sign from the Universe… I mean, come on, Yahtzee is hardly a cosmic experience.  So I stopped for just a moment and said out loud, “Thank you.  I know that was you, but was that my sign?”

Next turn, another Yahtzee.

Coincidence?  Maybe.  I choose to see it as not.  I called out for help, the Universe answered in an immediate way that caught my attention, in a way that even my weary mind would grasp.  I was comforted.

The Universe is always listening, and always responding.  Are you overlooking your signs?

Love and Light

~ Starr

April 1st – No Fools Here

So, yeah, it’s been quite awhile since I’ve posted anything.  I wanted to get back into this, knew I needed to, but there was always some excuse that caused me to pigeon-hole the idea and simply slack.  As much as I knew this just wasn’t acceptable, I just couldn’t motivate myself to do it.

I was upset with myself because I felt like I was letting people down; also because I was letting myself down.  I made this commitment and I wasn’t following through with it.  I had to do some real soul searching this last month to figure out what exactly was going on with my heart and mind, and this is what I came up with.

  • I want to help others.  Actually, it’s more than that… I need to help others.  This is how I gauge my usefulness, my reason for being here on this Earth, and this is how I grow.  I’m that person who every stray animal in the neighborhood finds their way to my porch.  I will stop traffic to save an animal in the road, no matter how many horns blare and/or people scream.  I hug crying strangers.  It’s a deep-seated call from the Universe, and it has been ever since I can remember.  By neglecting this project, I was essentially turning my back on the great gift of Empathy that the Universe saw fit to bestow upon me.
  • I have been dealing with health problems, including one new one since last August…something I have never encountered in my many years on this planet.  I will actually go more into detail on that in another blog post because the complex nature of what I experienced, along with what I’ve learned deserve more than a bullet note here.  I’m also hoping it will help anyone else dealing with this disorder.  While I didn’t intentionally use this as an excuse, it turned out that inadvertently it had indeed affected my way of thinking in the most subtle of ways.  Now, I have begun working to reverse that.  It’s not been easy, and I know it’s going to take some time.  Small steps.  I will get there, and I will have you all with me to share in the journey.
  • I am generally a very happy person, but since the beginning of this year I have had very low energy and my happiness has been in decline.  There always seemed to be some nagging sense of dread hanging over me, but I could never pinpoint the cause.  Every single time a mass shooting, bombing or other tragedy struck I could just feel my light dim a little more.  This is another subject that I will address in another blog post, as I think many people are dealing with this right now.
  • No matter how much you think you are over something… sometimes you just aren’t.  Since losing my job, I have been struggling with negative feelings of self-worth.  I realized very recently that even though I had thought I was way past all that, apparently I wasn’t.  I began really paying attention to what was going on inside my head, and I saw the little nasty thoughts that were popping in and dragging me down.  It’s amazing that we can so easily hide these thoughts among the other things that randomly run through our mind; you may think it’s harmless enough, but on a subconscious level you are always listening.
  • I had lost my path.  Instead of seeing or feeling where I was being guided, I let the noise of the world occlude my vision.  I allowed myself to wander excessively and expend energy on useless endeavors, draining my battery and causing inner turmoil that was drowning my very being.  Better things are ahead.  Live and learn, and grow from it.
  • Sometimes you just have to have faith.  When things don’t make sense, you just have to trust in divine timing and all will be revealed at the right and perfect moment.

So tonight, I sat down at midnight on April 1st (no jokes here though) and decided this is my new beginning… the fresh start.  I will work through all of this, with the help of my family and friends and all of you.  There is one person I want to thank individually; he’s helped me more than even he understands this past month.  John Fisher, you are my light and my biggest cheerleader and I thank God for you every day.  I am so grateful that you are in my soul family.

Love and Light to you all, and may you be guided by your angels to find whatever you are in need of.

~ Starr

A call to Action for South Carolina’s Flood Victims

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Dealing with Mercury Retrograde – September 17, 2015

Today begins Mercury Retrograde, which many always see as a chaotic time of year rife with malfunctions and misunderstandings.  I used to be one of those people, until I realized the purpose of this most hated time of year.

Mercury Retrograde is a time for personal growth.  During this time, we are pressed to release anything or any old patterns that do not serve our highest good.  It urges you out of your comfort zone, and sets you on a path to re-examine your life.  Do you have some routines that need a little tweaking for better time or energy management?  How about some habits that may not be in your best interests?  Or even something as small as redirecting your attention to new opportunities, away from anything stagnant or wasteful.  This is also a good time to finish up things that have been left incomplete or unresolved, both physically and spiritually.

The best thing you can do is be honest with yourself!  Don’t fight the changes, they are for your highest good.  Once you adopt this philosophy, Mercury Retrograde becomes much easier to manage and you could even find yourself looking forward to it (I know, hard to believe).  But I can attest to you, once I made this change in how I viewed this time of year I became much more centered and focused.  My life seemed to flow more easily.  It took some deep soul searching; a good many things came to light which I had been either ignoring or just flat out refused to let go.  I knew they weren’t for my highest good, but I clung to them for specific reasons.  Once I did my cosmic housecleaning, it opened the door to so many new opportunities!  Many of us are always saying “If I had more time…”  Well, guess what?  Now, right now, is the time to FIND that time.  I released from my life the biggest waste of my time, and I found that I really don’t miss it as much as I thought I would.  I give myself permission to revisit it on occasion, just for fun, but I do not dedicate the time and energy that I once had been wasting on it.  Talk about freedom!

Sometimes it just takes a fresh perspective.  You know you, better than anyone else, and you alone know where your time and energy can better be spent.  This is a time for introspection, reflection and redefining.

Don’t forget, be kind to yourself during this period!  Things will still get wonky; there will still be miscommunication and misunderstandings.  Don’t take things personally, just take a deep breath and let it go.  If there is a lesson to be learned, acknowledge it and move forward.  Be accepting of new ideas and fresh thinking!  The Universe is throwing you a big assist, and sometimes these new thoughts are pointers to a new direction for your life path.  Take notes, and when Mercury Retrograde is over you can dive straight in and act on them.

As with any Mercury Retrograde, here is a list of things to be watchful of:

  • Have patience with those you love.  Tempers can flair when things don’t go as expected, or when someone is trying to rid themselves of old habits.
  • Things will move at a much slower pace right now, so remember to be kind in the face of frustration.
  • Now is not the time to enter into new contracts, employment or make major purchases if it can be avoided.
  • Electronics have been know to malfunction during this period, so it’s a good idea to backup your data.
  • Things will get misplaced; try to make a conscious effort to remember where you are placing something important.
  • Sleep disturbances can cause problems during this period, so make every effort to get enough rest so that your health and mental well-being will not suffer.
  • Traveling is usually chaotic during Mercury Retrograde, so if you must travel make sure you have given yourself ample time for delays.  Also, make a list of any items you want to take along so you don’t forget anything at the last minute.  Be mindful of distractions while driving.
  • Communications often cause issues during this time; proof read your emails, think before speaking, and confirm all dates, appointments and/or meetings.
  • Watch your words carefully.  This is not the time to spread rumors or speak ill of others (not that there is ever a good time for these things).  Think before posting a rant to social media.
  • Now is a good time to get together with old friends and reminisce.

Brightest blessings to you, and may this Mercury Retrograde bring you clarification and direction.

Namaste.

Listen to your Intuition

Dear ones, 14 years ago today I learned how important it was to listen to our intuition, even when it seems to make absolutely no sense.

I had been been gifted a trip to watch a taping of Emeril Live from one of the cable companies for which we did IT work, so my husband and I took a 3 day weekend to NYC in January of 2001. On the way home, I saw the twin towers looming before us and something said “take a photo”. I thought, “I won’t be able to get a good photo right now… it’s rush hour, we can’t even pull over. I’ll take one next time we are here.” Then again the intuition. more insistent this time… “take it now or you’ll regret it”.

So, I snapped one photo through the windshield, then pulled over once we crossed the bridge and took another. Once home, life picked up where we had left it and I quickly forgot about the photos on my camera… until September 11th.

The Universe is guiding us… make sure you are listening.

Love instead of Judging

If you Judge people you have no room to Love themSomething has weighed heavy on my heart this past week, and I wanted to send a loving message to everyone. With the events in the news, it’s more important than ever to remain nonjudgmental… and I realize it’s not always easy. Judgement is not the way to peace. No one in this incarnation sees the big picture, the grand design; while you may not agree with something, it certainly does you no good to obsess over it. It’s very easy to get caught up in the drama, emotions are powerful motivators.

What we should and need to do instead is step back for just a moment… realize that everyone involved is a human being. You may not agree with what they have done or said, but that makes them no less a kindred soul. An eye for an eye leaves everyone blind.

In this time of hatred, please join me in sending peace to the masses. Pray for the greater good of all involved, and that love will fill their hearts.

~ Namaste ~