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Dealing with Mercury Retrograde – April 28, 2016

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Today begins Mercury Retrograde, which many always see as a chaotic time of year rife with malfunctions and misunderstandings.  I used to be one of those people, until I realized the purpose of this most hated time of year.

Mercury Retrograde is a time for personal growth.  During this time, we are pressed to release anything or any old patterns that do not serve our highest good.  It urges you out of your comfort zone, and sets you on a path to re-examine your life and re-evaluate your priorities and goals.  Do you have some routines that need a little tweaking for better time or energy management?  How about some habits that may not be in your best interests?  Or even something as small as redirecting your attention to new opportunities, away from anything stagnant or wasteful.  This is also a good time to finish up things that have been left incomplete or unresolved, both physically and spiritually.

The best thing you can do is be honest with yourself!  Don’t fight the changes, they are for your highest good.  Once you adopt this philosophy, Mercury Retrograde becomes much easier to manage and you could even find yourself looking forward to it (I know, hard to believe).  But I can attest to you, once I made this change in how I viewed this time of year I became much more centered and focused.  My life seemed to flow more easily.  It took some deep soul searching; a good many things came to light which I had been either ignoring or just flat out refused to let go.  I knew they weren’t for my highest good, but I clung to them for specific reasons.  Once I did my cosmic housecleaning, it opened the door to so many new opportunities!  Many of us are always saying “If I had more time…”  Well, guess what?  Now, right now, is the time to FIND that time.  I released from my life the biggest waste of my time, and I found that I really don’t miss it as much as I thought I would.  I give myself permission to revisit it on occasion, just for fun, but I do not dedicate the time and energy that I once had been wasting on it.  Talk about freedom!

Sometimes it just takes a fresh perspective.  You know you, better than anyone else, and you alone know where your time and energy can better be spent.  This is a time for introspection, reflection and redefining.

Don’t forget, be kind to yourself during this period!  Things will still get wonky; there will still be miscommunication and misunderstandings.  Don’t take things personally, just take a deep breath and let it go.  If there is a lesson to be learned, acknowledge it and move forward.  Be accepting of new ideas and fresh thinking!  The Universe is throwing you a big assist, and sometimes these new thoughts are pointers to a new direction for your life path.  Take notes, and when Mercury Retrograde is over you can dive straight in and act on them.

As with any Mercury Retrograde, here is a list of things to be watchful of:

  • Have patience with those you love.  Tempers can flair when things don’t go as expected, or when someone is trying to rid themselves of old habits.
  • Things will move at a much slower pace right now, so remember to be kind in the face of frustration.
  • Now is not the time to enter into new contracts, employment or make major purchases if it can be avoided.
  • Electronics have been know to malfunction during this period, so it’s a good idea to backup your data.
  • Things will get misplaced; try to make a conscious effort to remember where you are placing something important.
  • Sleep disturbances can cause problems during this period, so make every effort to get enough rest so that your health and mental well-being will not suffer.
  • Traveling is usually chaotic during Mercury Retrograde, so if you must travel make sure you have given yourself ample time for delays.  Also, make a list of any items you want to take along so you don’t forget anything at the last minute.  Be mindful of distractions while driving.
  • Communications often cause issues during this time; proof read your emails, think before speaking, and confirm all dates, appointments and/or meetings.
  • Watch your words carefully.  This is not the time to spread rumors or speak ill of others (not that there is ever a good time for these things).  Think before posting a rant to social media.
  • Now is a good time to get together with old friends and reminisce.

If you would like more specific information on this Mercury Retrograde in Taurus, there is some good information here.

Brightest blessings to you, and may this Mercury Retrograde bring you clarification and direction.

Love and Light!

~ Starr

Signs in the Most Unexpected Places

Today I wanted to share with you how hard the Universe works for your greatest good; also, the importance of seeing the signs.

Not quite two weeks ago, we found out that my son-in-law had cancer and it’s been a rollercoaster ride since.  There have been so many tears, so many prayers and pleas for help.  My mind was so frazzled that I wasn’t paying attention to signs right in front of me, so the Universe decided it was going to reach out to me in a very unexpected way.

One evening, I just needed something mindless to do to relax and unwind so I was playing Yahtzee with Buddies on my tablet.  I was crying and speaking out loud to the Universe, proclaiming that I felt lost along my path with so many things going wrong… it almost felt like I wasn’t doing what I needed to be doing.  I said, “I need a sign, please show me I’m still on the right path”.

Here’s where things got interesting.  My next turn on the app, I rolled a Yahtzee with just one roll.  That actually got a wee smile to my face, but I honestly didn’t believe that to be a sign from the Universe… I mean, come on, Yahtzee is hardly a cosmic experience.  So I stopped for just a moment and said out loud, “Thank you.  I know that was you, but was that my sign?”

Next turn, another Yahtzee.

Coincidence?  Maybe.  I choose to see it as not.  I called out for help, the Universe answered in an immediate way that caught my attention, in a way that even my weary mind would grasp.  I was comforted.

The Universe is always listening, and always responding.  Are you overlooking your signs?

Love and Light

~ Starr

Fibromyalgia and Anxiety Symptoms

I found an excellent article today on the relationship between Fibromyalgia and Anxiety symptoms.  I had suspected there may be a correlation, but this certainly helped clarify some of my questions.  I’m sharing it here for you all, I hope it helps some of you as it did me.

Living Smarter with Fibromyalgia – Fibromyalgia and Anxiety Symptoms

Love and Light, always.

~ Starr

Dealing with Disorders and other forms of Dis-ease – Part 2

Last week I spoke to  you about Fibromyalgia, and I will continue to post about it in the future as I learn more.  I have received a good deal of positive feedback, thank you!  It thrills me that I am bringing awareness and help to so many people.  From the bottom of my heart, thank you for your support and kind words.  Namaste.

Now, part 2, onto the new ailment.  I will admit, sadly, that I was one of those people who thought it was nothing more than a way for people to collect disability… until it happened to me.  See, that’s what happens when you are judgmental… the old “walk a mile in my shoes” thing.  Last August I was eating dinner at our home with my daughter and her partner, when all of a sudden my heart started racing.  I didn’t feel that at first, I just didn’t feel “right”.  I checked my pulse and it was scary high, so I immediately went to the hospital.  In triage, it was at 137 beats per minute.  They took me straight back into a room and hooked me up to all the monitors.  By this time I was in complete panic mode, thinking I was having a heart attack.  After hours of tests, they assured me that was not the case.  In fact, they couldn’t see anything wrong with my heart.  So the questioning began.

“Are you stressed about anything?”

“Did anything out of the ordinary happen to you today?”

“Did you have any emotional encounters today?”  etc, etc, etc.

I answered no to all of their questions.  More tests, multitudes of them, ensued.  Nothing physical was causing the problem.  They told me I was suffering from an anxiety disorder and panic attacks.  Yeah, right… me?  Miss Imaboutaslaidbackasapersoncanget?  The person who is used to speaking in front of thousands of people?  The woman who hosted her own internet radio show?  The gal who sings along (and not quietly) with the songs playing on the speakers in the middle of Kroger?  The chick who has never know a stranger?   Yep, that’s the one.

Just to cover everything, they sent me to a cardiologist.  Protocol entailed me wearing a heart monitor for a month.  The heart rate issues happened during that time, so I was sure there would be something enlightening for the doctor to share at our next appointment.  What he said was basically this… it’s a normal sinus rhythm, just elevated.  Nothing physical is causing it.  The initial diagnosis was correct.

To say I was at a loss is the mother of all understatements.  I just didn’t get it, and I was mad because I thought they just weren’t listening to me.  I’m not an uptight person… I’m not a worrier… I’m not a perfectionist (well, not hugely)… I avoid drama like the proverbial plague.  How did this happen?  I was focusing on all the wrong things, of course.  The one thing I do struggle with on occasion is being a control freak, though it’s not nearly as bad as my younger years.  So I was determined to figure out why this was happening, there HAD to be an explanation.

Over the course of the next 3 months I went a little crazy: I kept track of everything I ate and anything new that was introduced into our home;  I checked our house for visible mold; I refused to use any cleaner that wasn’t natural;  I threw out processed foods; I completely gave up caffeine and sugary drinks;  I stopped watching any movies or shows that I considered excessively violent or intense; I even asked the doctor to prescribe a blood glucose meter because I knew in my 20’s I had issues with hypoglycemia and thought that may have come to kick me in the butt yet again. There was more, but I think you get the drift.

What did I learn?

Oh yes, I was healthier… My sugar was normal (never was the problem), I lost weight and slept better.  Though my tailbone hurts now because it has lost its padding (I kid you not on that one).  Did any of it help the issue?  Nope, not one bit.  Frustrated, utterly to the point of crying and still I just wasn’t getting it.  One day my boyfriend lovingly sat forward in his chair, took my hands in his and said “Maybe there just isn’t an answer.  Maybe you just need to let it go.”

Of course, he was right.  If it had been a different diagnosis, I think I wouldn’t have had such a hard time believing it.  But THIS just made no sense, so I grasped at everything, anything, every little thing.  But I finally took his words to heart, and I commenced reconciling myself to what was happening to me.

Next step, getting my life back on track.  I had been so crazy (read that as control-freaking to the maximum) that my everyday life had gone right down the shitter (pardon the language, but it’s very appropriate right now).  I was so focused on what might be causing the issues, I didn’t see that my own actions were making it so much worse.  I was constantly in an anxious state, wondering if the next thing would cause my heart rate to skyrocket again.  My own personal hell.  And my family, God bless them all… through this entire ordeal, they stood with me and loved me and hugged me and were just there and didn’t judge me.  My whole family, not just the ones I live with.  I received so much support from a few of my Facebook friends, that I consider them my family.  Talks into the wee hours of the night while my boyfriend was at work and daughter was sleeping; thoughtful notes sent in messages or posted to my wall; being virtually embraced with so much love.  To my family, I love you more than I can every express.  You are everything to me, and I thank God every day for blessing me with you.

So here I am, still learning how to cope with it all.  I reckon it will be a lifelong thing, but I have learned some things while continuing on the Lightworking path.

  • Let go and Let God.  He promised to shoulder our burdens, all we have to do is surrender them.  What a wonderful blessing this is, to be loved so much by our Heavenly Father.  Let him help you; he’s just waiting to be asked.
  • Feel your Angels near.  They are there, like our Father, just waiting to be asked for help.
  • Don’t sweat the small stuff!  Seriously.  I’m not a worrier, but apparently I would let myself get flustered way too much (would?  no…do, I still do… but I’m working on it) by the most menial things.  Not being able to find something where I left it, or something being somewhere it’s not supposed to be, or even the slightest mishap in the kitchen… they just sent me overboard. Abort rescue, just toss me a life vest and hope for the best.  The state of mind I was in, I would have pulled anyone attempting a rescue right down with me.  I had to learn that lesson on my own.
  • Keep your heart open to both giving and receiving love!  Yeah, sounds pretty easy, but in that whacked-out state of mind sometimes it’s way too easy to withdraw into your dark place and just hide there.  You lose yourself.  You doubt yourself, your instincts, your intuitions, everything.  Keeping your heart energy flowing is the greatest way to combat this.  There are plenty of opportunities to share love, you don’t have to go out of your way.  Compliment someone, surprise someone with something special (a favorite homemade meal, cookies, craft), send a little note just to let someone know you are thinking about them, help someone in need… it’s not rocket science.  On the receiving end, don’t deflect.  Take a compliment with graciousness and gratitude.  Accept love when it is given.  Tear down those walls!
  • Recognize and acknowledge your emotions.  When you ignore them it only encourages problems.  Find your favorite type of therapy (walking in the park, playing a musical instrument, painting, meditation, crafting, etc) and work through your feelings, with love.
  • Focus on the positive in your life.  It’s easy, very easy, to fall into a victim mentality… don’t ask ‘why me’. I had been working on this for quite some time when one day I had my first breakthrough.  We had to make an emergency trip a few towns away, and I hadn’t had the money needed to replace the worn tires on my dear old Jeep (we fondly called her Magic).  On the way home, we had a blow out on the interstate.  The good news is we had just hit a major slow down because of a traffic backup, so there no real danger.  Instead of my first thought being ‘why me’ it was ‘thank you for this happening at a speed where we could all be safe’.  Much to my elation, I knew I had turned a corner in my thought patterns.  There is always good with the bad, you just have to see it.
  • Know that you are not alone.  This is a big one.  Reach out, help is there.  Family, friends, Facebook buddies, helplines.  Sometimes you just need a friendly voice to tell you that you matter, you are loved, everything will be fine, and you don’t have to go through this by yourself.  I’m here to tell you, you don’t.  Someone cares, I care.  I send my love and light across the miles to you, open your heart to receive it.  <3 <3 <3

I will continue to post on dealing with anxiety, as I learn myself how to deal.  I am now 8 months into that journey, and what a ride it’s been.  I remember asking for help early last year, to be a healthier and more enlightened person. As odd as it sounds, I think this is what needed to happen for that to come about.  I can tell you now, I will never take good days for granted; I thank God for every moment.  I continue to learn, to try and fail, and to grow.

Love and Light to you, always.  I wish you the brightest of blessings, and may you know peace.

~ Starr

Dealing with Disorders and other forms of Dis-ease – Part 1

I’ve been contemplating all this week how to really tackle this subject, because what I want everyone to realize are these things:

  1. Just because you’ve never dealt with it doesn’t mean you never will.
  2. Even though you may think some disorders are a bunch of hooey, that doesn’t make them any less debilitating to the person experiencing them.
  3. Be kind when dealing with someone who is currently going through something you don’t understand.  Every form of Disorder or Dis-ease is real enough to the person experiencing it to cause a problem.  Being judgmental doesn’t help.

Remember in my last post I wrote about health issues, and dealing with something new since last summer?  Here’s the story…

I was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia about 14 years ago.  The symptoms include: muscle and joint pain and tenderness; persistent or chronic fatigue; what we lovingly call “brain fog” (basically a decrease in memory and cognitive function); headaches; sensitivity to sensory stimuli (noises, smells, lights, etc); irritable bowel syndrome; sleep problems… and more.  You can read more about it here if you’d like.

The symptoms had began in my late teens; I didn’t really dwell on them, so I just kept on keeping on.  I played sports, gardened, cleaned, cooked… all the normal day to day things.  The only difference was my level of pain.  I just simply learned to live with it.  Since being diagnosed, I have learned that many, many Lightworkers suffer from this disorder.  Why?  Because many of these same symptoms are common with Ascension symptoms.  Our bodies are in a state of transition when we raise our vibration; that transition comes with waves of chaos most times.  We are adapting, simply put.  There are many articles on the subject.  What I’ve learned in my years of study and spiritual work is this: the best way to deal with it is some form of movement exercise (Yoga, Tai Chi, etc) and energy clearing work.  I firmly believe that the root of our pain lies in our emotional system and plays havoc with our energy flow.  Know your chakras, learn how to work with them and keep them open and flowing.  When we have blockages caused by emotional distress, this is what causes our Dis-ease.  Acupuncture, Reiki, or any energy healing modality will help.

There is no “cure” for Fibromyalgia, but western medicine is good for stuffing you full of medications to treat symptoms instead of the cause.  Not everyone has the same symptoms, or the same intensity of symptoms.  The one thing everyone thinks they know about Fibro is it’s physical pain.  Well yes, it is, but we all know the power of the mind and our thoughts to manifest physical afflictions.

Here is what helped me:

  • Don’t fall into a victim mentality or allow yourself to use it as an excuse.  If you think “Oh, if I go out and play softball today, I’m going to pay for it tomorrow” then you most certainly will because that is what you are setting into place with that thought.  Don’t give it THAT power.  Don’t talk about it in negative contexts; if you must talk about it, do it with a triumphant air… you rose to the challenge and kicked its butt!
  • Keeping my emotional baggage unpacked.  When I had a flare up, I knew there was something that needed to be addressed.  Sometimes it wasn’t even something new… it would be something long buried, that I didn’t even realize had reared up to bite me in the arse until I finally saw it’s ugly head.  Think of it as a good game of Clue.
  • Keeping a journal.  Cliche maybe, but honestly it did help.  The main reason was because it helped me to keep track of things I may have forgotten happened, or the exact circumstances under which it happened.  Also, it was therapeutic to right it all out and purge it from my system.  A kind of mental and spiritual cleansing.  The reason I had even thought to do this was because of a past emotional trauma for which I had to seek therapy, and that was one of the first things she had recommended me to do.
  • Knowing my triggers.  We all have them. They can be almost anything, that’s the hell of it.  But knowing your triggers helps you to avoid situations that could cause an emotional imbalance.
  • Learning to accept the apology that never came and just let that stuff go.  This definitely falls into the category of energy work, but it is a mental endeavor nonetheless.  It was one of the hardest things for me to do, until a dear friend (Thank you Dee) told me “Starr, you only hurt yourself by holding on to all that crap.  You aren’t hurting them.”  Right she was too, because I had become so negative that I couldn’t even see the positive things right in front of me.  I was too focused on rehashing every single painful moment, dwelling in that, and letting the past eat up my present.  I was nothing short of amazed at how much better my pain became once I started letting things go.  I actually made a list and began crossing things off just so I could see progress.  I wrote in my journal.  I wrote letters that I never sent, expressing my hurt.  I had talks with the stuffed bear on my bed, or my cat (purr therapy is always beneficial).  I cried, a lot.  I hugged my daughters, a lot.  I found a craft project and focused on creating something beautiful.  It all helped.

Do your homework, find what works best for you and do that.  Above all, continue with your ascension work!

I will happily answer any questions you may have, just post them below in the comments.

Part 2 to come… that’s about the newly acquired disorder.  My original intention was to just have it all in one article, but later thought it was too much to just shove all this into one post.  Information overload.

Wishing you all much Love and Light!  May your day be brightly blessed!

~ Starr

April 1st – No Fools Here

So, yeah, it’s been quite awhile since I’ve posted anything.  I wanted to get back into this, knew I needed to, but there was always some excuse that caused me to pigeon-hole the idea and simply slack.  As much as I knew this just wasn’t acceptable, I just couldn’t motivate myself to do it.

I was upset with myself because I felt like I was letting people down; also because I was letting myself down.  I made this commitment and I wasn’t following through with it.  I had to do some real soul searching this last month to figure out what exactly was going on with my heart and mind, and this is what I came up with.

  • I want to help others.  Actually, it’s more than that… I need to help others.  This is how I gauge my usefulness, my reason for being here on this Earth, and this is how I grow.  I’m that person who every stray animal in the neighborhood finds their way to my porch.  I will stop traffic to save an animal in the road, no matter how many horns blare and/or people scream.  I hug crying strangers.  It’s a deep-seated call from the Universe, and it has been ever since I can remember.  By neglecting this project, I was essentially turning my back on the great gift of Empathy that the Universe saw fit to bestow upon me.
  • I have been dealing with health problems, including one new one since last August…something I have never encountered in my many years on this planet.  I will actually go more into detail on that in another blog post because the complex nature of what I experienced, along with what I’ve learned deserve more than a bullet note here.  I’m also hoping it will help anyone else dealing with this disorder.  While I didn’t intentionally use this as an excuse, it turned out that inadvertently it had indeed affected my way of thinking in the most subtle of ways.  Now, I have begun working to reverse that.  It’s not been easy, and I know it’s going to take some time.  Small steps.  I will get there, and I will have you all with me to share in the journey.
  • I am generally a very happy person, but since the beginning of this year I have had very low energy and my happiness has been in decline.  There always seemed to be some nagging sense of dread hanging over me, but I could never pinpoint the cause.  Every single time a mass shooting, bombing or other tragedy struck I could just feel my light dim a little more.  This is another subject that I will address in another blog post, as I think many people are dealing with this right now.
  • No matter how much you think you are over something… sometimes you just aren’t.  Since losing my job, I have been struggling with negative feelings of self-worth.  I realized very recently that even though I had thought I was way past all that, apparently I wasn’t.  I began really paying attention to what was going on inside my head, and I saw the little nasty thoughts that were popping in and dragging me down.  It’s amazing that we can so easily hide these thoughts among the other things that randomly run through our mind; you may think it’s harmless enough, but on a subconscious level you are always listening.
  • I had lost my path.  Instead of seeing or feeling where I was being guided, I let the noise of the world occlude my vision.  I allowed myself to wander excessively and expend energy on useless endeavors, draining my battery and causing inner turmoil that was drowning my very being.  Better things are ahead.  Live and learn, and grow from it.
  • Sometimes you just have to have faith.  When things don’t make sense, you just have to trust in divine timing and all will be revealed at the right and perfect moment.

So tonight, I sat down at midnight on April 1st (no jokes here though) and decided this is my new beginning… the fresh start.  I will work through all of this, with the help of my family and friends and all of you.  There is one person I want to thank individually; he’s helped me more than even he understands this past month.  John Fisher, you are my light and my biggest cheerleader and I thank God for you every day.  I am so grateful that you are in my soul family.

Love and Light to you all, and may you be guided by your angels to find whatever you are in need of.

~ Starr